Eph 5:31  For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

In today’s text, Paul begins by quoting from Genesis 2:24, a text that reminds us who ordained marriage, and therefore highlights God’s word as final authority and the right perspective to marriage. He then goes a step further to explain that verse in the next: “This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.” Ephesians 5:32. How is it that a discuss on marriage spiraled into a discuss about Christ and His church? On this, there are two crucial points:

Marriage mirrors the union between Christ and His church so perfectly, that you can use one to teach the other.

Our relationship with God is the foundation for a successful marriage and relationship.
Picking the first point, it’s very interesting that when God spoke about marriage first, he intended for that union to be a symbol of the union between Christ and His Church. The book of Genesis is replete with symbols that prefigured the salvation plan of God in Christ Jesus. Paul, for instance, tells us that when God said, “Let there be light” (Genesis 1:3), that was symbolic of the ‘light’ of the glorious gospel of Christ dawning on men (2 Cor 4:6). Symbols are meant to point to something else. What’s more? What they point to is always more important. This is why, from God’s perspective to marriage, which is the only perspective there really is, our relationship with God is a very important basis for a successful marriage. If we are out of touch with the only thing meant to help us see what a good marriage is, how do we cope?
The Bible’s description of marriage is always with salvation as a perspective. How are you to behave as a wife? Paul says:

Eph 5:22  Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, AS UNTO THE LORD”. If you never submitted to the Lord, how will this then make sense? How are you to behave as a husband? Paul says:  “Eph 5:23  For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.” If I do not understand Christ as the head of the church, how do I pattern after that?
Alas, I realize that there is something more important than marriage after all. Before I begun to fantasize about being with a man or woman, I want to find purpose in Christ. First, that will help me enter into relationship and marriage already satisfied. It’s draining trying to get from a spouse what only God can give. Secondly, my relationship with God becomes a good basis for my relationship with others.