“Set your mind and keep focused habitually on the things above [the heavenly things], not on things that are on the earth [which have only temporal value].”
Colossians 3:2 AMP

Our anchor text says that we should set our minds on the things that are above and not on things that are on the earth. You may be wondering how this concerns the topic of dating and marriage. Oh well, it does, and we will see this shortly.

Although marriage is not spiritual, it is divine. It is not spiritual because it is not exclusive to the believer, neither are its activities. Unbelievers get married too, in fact, some of them have good marriages.

However, it is divine because it is ordained by God for a purpose, which is to mirror the union between Christ and the church. (Ephesians 5:22-32)

Hence, it is important to set your affections rightly. In today’s devotion, our focus is on purpose and dating because the dating period is that time when the decision to be exclusively committed to a person of the opposite sex is made. It’s also the time you get to know the person better and know whether you get to spend the rest of your life with them or not.

When making a decision for a life partner, it is important to have standards or expectations as pertaining the kind of person you want to be in a romantic relationship with. But what standards do you have?

Is purpose the core of your standards? Or are you just concerned about looks, vibes, financial abilities, and so on? I’m not saying these things are not important, of course, they are. But they are not as important as purpose. Don’t forget that the purpose of your life is to know Christ and to make Him known, not marriage.

“And that he died for all, that they which live should not henceforth live unto themselves, but unto him which died for them, and rose again.”
2 Corinthians 5:15 KJV

This is the destiny of your life. It belongs to Christ, even when you marry. This is why you must set your affections. Your relationship decisions should not be based on how you feel only because feelings are fickle. Love is more than how you feel alone.

Love is a choice and you must choose with God because your life belongs to Him and He has plans for it. You have to be discerning as regards what God would have you do in your relationship. The most important question on your mind should be; “Will marrying this person help me achieve my purpose in life and vice versa?” If your answer is no, then you can’t make a decision to be with them.

God wants you to be involved with someone with whom you can do purpose. Again I ask, what are your standards? Review them today. Let purpose be at the core of your of your mind.

Bible Reading Plan:

Matthew 13:24-43, Acts 19:1-22, Psalms 31, Exodus 21-23.