“For God loved the world in this way: He gave His One and Only Son, so that everyone who believes in Him will not perish but have eternal life.”
John 3:16 HCSB

God’s word is a boundary for our safekeeping. Not only that, it instructs us in the way to go. 2 Timothy 3:16 HCSB puts it this way:

“All Scripture is inspired by God and is profitable for teaching, for rebuking, for correcting, for training in righteousness …”

Although this text in context is geared towards maturing and equipping a man of God for every good work, it lends credence to the fact that if the Scriptures has anything to say about any subject, then it is the final authority on such a subject.

Love is a subject of doctrine in the Scriptures – not just God’s love for us but love even as expressed in romantic relationships. And if we are to do romantic relationships right, we must do it as Scriptures instruct.

For the sake of clarity, love as expressed in romantic relationships is explained in the word as one that should be rooted in Christ (Ephesians 5:22-32). It therefore means that regardless of the butterflies that characterises such relationships, its substance must find expression in God.

1 Corinthians 13 explains the characteristics of love. It is patient, kind, does not envy and other wonderful things. All these things love is do not happen by chance. They require intentionality.

Psychologically, love seems like it should be spontaneous and irrational but the word of God says otherwise. Love is INTENTIONAL. It may not use this exact word but it is implied.

Our anchor text is one out of the numerous examples in Scripture that validate this notion. It says, “God loved the world in this way” and it goes on to tell us how – by giving His One and Only Son to die for us. This is intentionality.

God’s love for us, as seen in the plan of salvation, was not an ‘audio’ promise. It was well planned and played out. As early as the beginning of creation (Genesis 3:15), it was mentioned. In Scriptures, we see how God made promises to His children and kept them. The word “I will” occurred time and time again (Ezekiel 36:24-27).

One of the ways we know it took intentionality to keep these promises is rooted in how hard they were to keep. It eventually took God to become a man to keep the central promise of Scripture – the Salvation of our souls. (Philippians 2:5-8)

Cartoons like Snowwhite, Beauty and the Beast and the likes may present love as spontaneous, characterised with flighty emotions and grossly illogical but the word of God says otherwise.

If you want to build a relationship that will last, you have to be intentional about love. Mind you, all this is easier said than done but very much possible. If not, God will not demand it of you. By giving you His Spirit, He has endowed you with the capacity to love with intentionality (Ephesians 1:13, Galatians 5:22). Love intentionally.

Bible Reading Plan:
Matthew 16:1-12, Acts 22, Psalms 37:1-22, Exodus 35-37