“Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?”
2 Corinthians 6:14, KJV

In discussing romantic relationships, being smart is not a popular attribute of Love. Love is usually perceived as the sweet butterflies that would make you catch a grenade for your loved one. However, smartness must be infused into our decision making process if we want to choose right.

Love is neither a game nor a fantasy. It is serious business, a commitment to someone else. You should not just stumble into it and go with flow. You should make intelligent choices based on Scriptural guidelines.

“And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.” (Genesis 2:20, KJV)

From the beginning, we see the deliberate effort to find a suitable help meet for Adam. It was not a coincidental arrangement, but a match made for his specific assignment. Little wonder after interacting with all the other animals, he saw Eve and declared, “this is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh…” (Genesis 2:23 KJV)

Similarly, Abraham stated clearly that a Canaanite woman was a no-no for his children. However, in Gen 24:12-21, we see Eliezer (Abraham’s servant) further outline his criteria for the kind of woman he was going to pick for Isaac, and Rebekah excelled in all these areas. This drives home the fact that we can observe visible patterns in a person’s life before making decisions.

It is okay to set realistic expectations in line with God’s word and wait patiently for the manifestation. Undoubtedly, it is better to be single than to marry the wrong person.

As our anchor text points out, we cannot be in partnership with unbelievers. Regardless of how many other boxes that individual ticks, light cannot have fellowship with darkness.

Finally, it is important that the two individuals in a relationship are in sync with their assignments. Marriage is a life-long journey, so you must pick a partner headed towards your destination. “Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction?” (Amos 3:3, NLT)

Love is smart. Choose wisely, choose with God.

Bible Reading Plan:

Matthew 16:13-28, Acts 23:1-11, Psalms 37:23-40, Exodus 38-40.