“And this I pray, that your love may abound yet more and more in knowledge and in all judgment;”
Philippians 1:9, KJV
One of the hallmarks of a successful relationship is the maturity of the individuals involved. Yesterday, we learnt to love others based on the grace we have received. Today, still along those lines, we shall be considering five scriptural aspects of maturity in love.
First is maturity as an individual. It’s important that you know yourself first before venturing into a relationship. Understand and acknowledge your preferences, temperament and areas of weakness. Then make efforts to grow, whether or not your partner points it out. ( Romans 12:2 )
Some traits are totally unbecoming of us as sons of God. Even if one tries to pretend for a while, those negative traits will still be exposed. Hence, we must recognize the need for improvement and see to it. We should nip those traits in the bud before they ruin a good relationship.
Closely linked to this is emotional maturity. Dear believer, put away childish things! Grow in love, accept and accommodate others , speak with honor and kindness, handle tough times with grace and conduct yourself with others in mind. (Ephesians 5:1)
Here is what Paul has to say about this: “When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.” (1 Corinthians 13:11, KJV)
Then, we can speak of maturity as a couple. Even as Christians in serious relationships, conflicts still arise. Understanding what works for both of you, how you handle issues, your love languages etc, will help to strengthen your bond. It doesn’t matter how supernatural your meeting was, or the divine leading you have, you have to be committed to making the relationship work.
Next is financial maturity. Love gives, and this is very important in relationships. Generally, relationships come with a lot of expenses. Both of you must first accept each other at whatever stage you are in right now. However, you must be responsible and diligent in your individual businesses. Your financial plan should not be to marry someone who is rich.
“He becomes poor who works with a slack and idle hand, but the hand of the diligent makes rich. He who gathers in summer is a wise son, but he who sleeps in harvest is a son who causes shame.” (Proverbs 10:4-5, AMP)
It is also good to have financial discussions, agree on saving and spending budgets, among other things. Build a financially sound culture as a person and maintain it in your relationship. It is a godly and wise habit. (Proverbs 6:6-8, 1 Corinthians 16:2)
More importantly, be financially mature towards Kingdom business (Matthew 6;19-20, 1Timothy 6:18-19).
Above all, you must be spiritually mature. You know why? So “that we henceforth be no more children, tossed to and fro, and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the sleight of men, and cunning craftiness, whereby they lie in wait to deceive; But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ:” (Ephesians 4:14-15, ESV)
God will have you excel in every area, including your relationships. Today, reflect on your life, sincerely note areas you need to improve on and get to work.
Bible Reading Plan:
Matthew 20:17-34, Acts 27:27-44, Psalms 45, Leviticus 21-23