“Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense.”
Proverbs 19:11 ESV
Yesterday, we looked at how offences can steal our joy. Today, we’ll discuss how to handle them and stop them from being our killjoys.
Joy is a crucial part of our Christian walk and it is imperative to keep our joy at all times and eliminate anything that can tamper with it. Therefore, knowing how to handle offence is key.
We established that offence is a trap. It is anything that lies in wait for you, causing you to act inconsistent with your divine nature. It will do you great gain to see it for what it is and anticipate it.
If you are told ahead to expect inclement weather, there’s most likely nothing you can do to change it. However, you can prepare ahead to be safe and sound, depending on the circumstances. In the same vein, you will respond better to offence when it’s anticipated. Don’t let it catch you off guard.
Whenever you encounter an offence, learn to walk away from it. Many times, you don’t need to have the ‘last word’ or seek to prove anything to anyone. Be grounded in your identity in Christ and this will be an easier feat by the day. Let’s look at an example of this from the Bible.
In 1 Samuel 17:28-30, David’s wise response to his brother’s false allegation against him was to simply turn away and not seek to prove himself there and then. It also did not cause him to be dejected as to leave the fight. He pressed on to his victory.
When you guard your heart against offence, you are able to glide through the majority of life’s issues. Your joy is not based on anything that anyone says or does for or against you but it is based on the fact that you have overcome the world.
“Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” (Ephesians 4:31-32 ESV)
Let your response to offence be with joy, not bitterness. Deal with it immediately by stirring up joy in your spirit and extending love and kindness towards people that offended you, and to everyone generally.
This is a more free way of life, a life that chooses joy over bitterness and spite. It may be hard but it comes easy by the help of the Spirit.
Beloved, now that we are light, let us walk as children of light (Ephesians 5:8). In your day to day, endeavor to act like Christ because He lives in you. Love is foundational to dealing with offence and you must show it because it is a fruit of your born again spirit (1 John 3:14).
Walk in love today!
Bible Reading Plan:
Luke 22:24-30, Hebrews 5, Proverbs 22:1-16, Isaiah 21-23.